Homesickness is something that will probably affect most university students at some point or another. The first few weeks away can be a particular struggle, as often living in a new place, meeting new people and living without familiar faces can be overwhelming. But homesickness is normal, it is okay and it is not something that can really be helped.
I struggled for most of my first term, off and on, with feeling down. I went home within five days of being at university, I cried a lot and often wondered why I hadn’t just called it quits. Perhaps going home so soon could be considered a bit pathetic or stupid, but I disagree. It was what I needed to do and possibly what stopped me from giving up so soon.
I believe that the most important thing to do when you are feeling is to let it happen, don’t fight it, don’t try to be strong, just roll with it. Often a little cry can actually make it better.
Secondly, tell someone! You have to remember that many people will be in the same position as you and it can be a common ground to build a friendship. Either that or tell a family member, a friend from home or someone at your university. They will not push you away, I promise.
Thirdly, call or skype home. This sounds like the last thing you want to do but trust me it helps (a lot). I speak to my Mum every single day, and I am not ashamed to admit it. In fact I probably talk to her more now I’ve moved away! My grandparents send me letters and cards in the post, which always cheers me up. My Mum and little Sister, Natty, send me food parcels with treats in – some good old comfort food eh?
Fourthly (what a strange sounding word…), if it is possible, visit home occasionally. I went home twice in my first term and Natty came to stay with me also. Going home is something I look forward to and when I am finding the days really though, it is what keeps me going.
And finally: smile, leave your room and go explore. This is something I didn’t realise would help until recently. A distraction can help you to feel less lonely. And besides, you are living somewhere new, why not explore?
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To read the post before this one, “What is university really like?” click here! Thank you, C x
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